Refactor cross attention and allow mechanism to tweak cross attention function (huggingface#1639)

* first proposal

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* Apply suggestions from code review

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* finish

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* rename

* correct versatile

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* fix

* Apply suggestions from code review

* make style

* Apply suggestions from code review

Co-authored-by: Pedro Cuenca <[email protected]>

* add error message

Co-authored-by: Pedro Cuenca <[email protected]>

Author: 2 people