chore: update to node 22

[snowystinger]

Closes

You might notice that @react-aria/ssr still declares

  "engines": {
    "node": ">= 12"
  },

We can't update this without it no longer handling optional chaining, which webpack 4 cannot handle. So it remains at 12 for everyone and our code transpiles larger. 🤷🏻‍♂️

There is also now a deprecation warning for punycode, this will eventually go away most likely when storybook upgrade is complete and whenever we finally axe lerna.

✅ Pull Request Checklist:

• Included link to corresponding React Spectrum GitHub Issue.
• Added/updated unit tests and storybook for this change (for new code or code which already has tests).
• Filled out test instructions.
• Updated documentation (if it already exists for this component).
• Looked at the Accessibility Practices for this feature - Aria Practices

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