Removing unsafe lib by switching to atomic.Pointer

[kfswain]

This opinion is backed by the sync/atomic authors: https://pkg.go.dev/sync/atomic#StorePointer

And protects us from usage of unsafe.Pointer

WIP b/c I'm manually validating

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[hzxuzhonghu]

/lgtm