schemeshard: remove schemeshard_utils.h from common dependencies

[ijon]

Remove schemeshard_utils.h from schemeshard_impl.h includes.
Move TShardDeleter and TSelfPinger out of schemeshard_utils.*.

This is part of "improve schemeshard operation build-time" effort (#10633).

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[github-actions]

⚪ 2024-11-27 13:55:49 UTC Pre-commit check linux-x86_64-release-asan for 9cd0ccb has started.
⚪ 2024-11-27 13:56:01 UTC Artifacts will be uploaded here
⚪ 2024-11-27 13:59:00 UTC ya make is running...
🟡 2024-11-27 15:06:32 UTC Some tests failed, follow the links below. This fail is not in blocking policy yet

Test history | Ya make output | Test bloat

TESTS	PASSED	ERRORS	FAILED	SKIPPED	MUTED?
13211	13136	0	15	10	50

🟢 2024-11-27 15:07:36 UTC Build successful.
🟡 2024-11-27 15:08:08 UTC ydbd size 4.9 GiB changed* by +187.3 KiB, which is >= 100.0 KiB vs main: Warning

ydbd size dash	main: e89b8d6	merge: 9cd0ccb	diff	diff %
ydbd size	5 293 665 816 Bytes	5 293 857 592 Bytes	+187.3 KiB	+0.004%
ydbd stripped size	1 360 902 544 Bytes	1 360 907 824 Bytes	+5.2 KiB	+0.000%

^{*please be aware that the difference is based on comparing your commit and the last completed build from the post-commit, check comparation}

[github-actions]

⚪ 2024-11-27 13:56:37 UTC Pre-commit check linux-x86_64-relwithdebinfo for 9cd0ccb has started.
⚪ 2024-11-27 13:56:48 UTC Artifacts will be uploaded here
⚪ 2024-11-27 13:59:42 UTC ya make is running...
🟢 2024-11-27 14:52:24 UTC Tests successful.

Test history | Ya make output | Test bloat

TESTS	PASSED	ERRORS	FAILED	SKIPPED	MUTED?
20895	19385	0	0	1396	114

🟢 2024-11-27 14:54:02 UTC Build successful.
🟡 2024-11-27 14:54:20 UTC ydbd size 2.5 GiB changed* by +118.9 KiB, which is >= 100.0 KiB vs main: Warning

ydbd size dash	main: e89b8d6	merge: 9cd0ccb	diff	diff %
ydbd size	2 694 386 536 Bytes	2 694 508 240 Bytes	+118.9 KiB	+0.005%
ydbd stripped size	482 132 592 Bytes	482 133 936 Bytes	+1.3 KiB	+0.000%

^{*please be aware that the difference is based on comparing your commit and the last completed build from the post-commit, check comparation}